In this second stage of my life, I am discovering that I view friendship very differently from how I viewed it during my young adult years. Quite frankly, friendships in my 30’s seem strange to have. From some earlier posts, I’ve mentioned that some friendships should gradually turn into business-related partnerships and/ or marriage. But, you, or everyone else, may disagree with me. Lately, I have not had the luxury to continue most friendships, or even, to turn them into anything.
Based on the friendships that I currently have, we are all pretty much out of touch with each other. We no longer know a damn thing about each other. So, when I receive emails asking, “How are you?,” I am thinking really…an email?! We’ve known each other for years!!! Here the numerous reason why I find this upsetting:
- You have my number and did not use it.
- You are not responsible for how I am feeling or what I am doing, so why ask?
- The type of medium for communication shows that you do not care that much, have no interest in really knowing how well I am doing, anyway, and/ or probably are nosy.
- I do not know if this email even came from a “friend” since the “friend” and I haven’t talked in such a long time.
What makes that email even spookier is that I saw an episode from Web of Lies, a series on the ID channel, about a man hacking an email server not long before receiving this email from a “friend.” Hence, I find my life worth saving and protecting. I stress many times why communication, especially, in personal relationships, are utmost important. Most personal relationships do not have standards and protocols of communication like most professional or institutional relationships do.
Truthfully, I feel that if you are lazy in maintaining the friendship, or any other relationship, just let it go. There is no reason to string along the other person, or even drag out a meaningless friendship. Of course, I have my part in this friendship. What I’ve learned is that, sometimes, in life, you have to know when to let people go. Yes, we all evaluate our friendships based on whether or not theses types of relationships can improve us. Unfortunately, for me, most of my friendships have not improved me. However, over the years, ending most friendships have. Make the A.